The Narcissist’s goal is to lower your self esteem and make you doubt yourself
Narcissists have a knack for destroying your self-esteem. They often cause you to doubt yourself with their verbal put-downs and insulting jokes. They may belittle you and make you feel small, or start fights to instigate others against you.

One of the most significant ways Narcissists destroy your self-confidence is by causing you to doubt yourself. They achieve this through verbal putdowns, insulting jokes or belittling comments about you. They may start fights to incite worries and anxieties that make you second-guess your decisions. Additionally, Narcissists may attempt to steal your family and friends by persuading them to turn against you, or to have them instigate others against you.

They often try to steal your loved ones by turning them against you. One of the more dangerous techniques they use is called “gaslighting.” Narcissists may gaslight you in an attempt to blame you for everything and make you doubt your realityThis is a form of psychological manipulation whereby they make you question your reality by blaming you for things, twisting and fabricating the truth, and by making you doubt the credibility of your thoughts and memories.

Furthermore, they make you feel as if you are the problem and it is your fault that their actions are the way they are. The result of these tactics is that you become more and more insecure, your self-esteem is ever waning, and you start to shut yourself off from the world and the people around you. It is vital that you are aware of how these types of people can manipulate you and those you love in order to protect your mental health and well-being.

If you are looking to get your self esteem back after leaving a Narcissist, it is important to take things slow and not blame yourself for anything that happened. The first step on your path toward healing is to get support from professionals such as a therapist or counselor. Having a safe, nurturing place to talk about what has happened can be tremendously helpful.
Take time out to reflect and simply ‘be’, doing some mindful activities can help to clear your head and recenter yourself. Reclaiming who you once were is an important part of the healing process. Consider what things you used to do before you were in the relationship, what values and qualities did you bring with you? Reconnecting with yourself is a chance to rediscover yourself, and to remind yourself of your own worth and capabilities.

Finally, consider seeking spiritual help from a church or other spiritual group. Having a supportive spiritual group can help to fill a void and remind yourself of your value as a person. It is also important to remember to stay no contact with your ex-narcissist. Staying no contact will help to protect you from any further pain, and will help you in the long run.